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Find that special person
How do you find that special person — someone with the same Christian values?
Meet more people - Let family and friends know that you are interested in meeting someone
- Join a church group or enroll in an educational or personal interest course
- Get involved in sports activities, or charity-sponsored runs or walks
- Another way is to use an introduction service. Read what the Catholic Bishops say about them
here.
- And you can see a
comparison of dating sites here.
In your efforts to meet a person with shared values, don't forget to pray for God's guidance.
Tell Jesus what your heart is feeling. Ask Him to help you find that special person... one with whom you can share your life and your love of Christ.
Trust Him to answer your prayers in a way that is best for you.
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Shared Christian values don't always guarantee success, but are an excellent starting point for forming a relationship. Here is
a helpful site.
If you don't meet a Catholic, but you do meet someone who is a good human being, then ask the Lord for guidance. The Lord has a special love for people of good will. Often He is waiting to shower blessings on such a person. Usually the success of the relationship will depend on your good example. Here is an excellent book to help women know whether the man she is dating is a good choice
| Whom not to marry will help women decide whether the man they are dating is marriage material. It is written by an 81 year old priest from New Jersey, Father Pat Connor. Father Connor says, “You might be thinking, ‘He’s a priest. He’s never been married,’ and in that you would be correct.” But, he goes on, “For over 50 years I have had the privilege of speaking with young women on the subject of whom not to marry. These women have opened their hearts and minds while bringing me their questions.” Remember, he writes, “You can be deeply in love with someone to whom you cannot be successfully married.” If you’re thinking love conquers all, “It doesn’t,” he writes. Top on his list is, “Never marry a man who cannot hold down a job.” Then there’s “never marry a man who has no friends.” Whom Not to Marry: Time-Tested Advice from a Higher Authority |
It is always wise to seek advice from those you trust
Before making a commitment,
welcome the advice of family and close friends. Often they can spot problems, which a person in love might blindly miss.
Sometimes a person marries because they feel sorry for the other person. Sometimes a person is pressured into marrying by the other person, or by family members. These marriages seldom work out.
Should couples try living together before getting married? This is not a good way to see whether a marriage would work. One of the partners may not be committed. And they can easily bail out and look elsewhere.
If there is a possibility of a serious relationship
Make sure you know the person's background. If you have doubts, don't rush things. Often, time reveals much.
The Church offers you a marriage preparation course
My sister and her fiance attended a marriage preparation course. By the second session, they both knew it wouldn't work and marriage preparations were cancelled. The course had prevented much future unhappiness.
Couples who have taken the course say that it has been a "wonderful experience" and a "great help" in making their marriage a success.
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